I received this comment and it touched me in a special way. “It’s clear you’re not someone who does domination. You are a dominatrix.” Six years ago I discovered there was a name for something that, for a long time, was seen as problematic behavior. BDSM gave me language, context, and community for something that always existed within me. An intensity. A wildness. A certain rebellion against what is expected of a woman. Here I am not playing a character. I am giving form to a nature that previously had no space to exist. And perhaps that is why those who observe carefully realize: this is not empty performance. It is identity. #domme