Yesterday a guy asked me to put food up his ass and eat it. "Obviously I didn't," firstly because I'm classy and my style is more girlfriend-like. So think about it... You message me privately, you're already typing, you don't say anything, you turn on your camera and audio, how do you think we're going to want to give our best? Normalize it, send a little gift, that's powerful. You don't know what we've been up to before you even arrive. This is a way for you to show your worth and be empathetic. It won't make you lose your manhood or make you any less of a man, quite the opposite, it makes you more relaxed and attractive.

Normalize sending a small gift; you don't know the power it has. Be different from those jerks here. Being kind won't hurt you; we spend hours here listening to nonsense, and when you get to the chat, you don't know what the previous user was like, so it's a way to make the host more relaxed.