It's safer to be feared than to be loved; if you can't be both, then you'll automatically earn respect, not the false admiration and flattery of those who use you, drain you, and when they have nothing left to drain you, discard you. To be respected, few will be with you and support you, especially in difficult times. Flatterers, on the other hand, the first time you refuse, will abandon you and vilify you to others, painting you as if you were the monster in the story. My tip for knowing who's truly who is is to test how far and what people will go and do for you. Don't let situations unfold automatically, because when you need those you thought were on your side, you'll be disappointed, left high and dry, without the help of those you once helped. So, this is the best choice to make: testing is what yields results in creating true, not fleeting, alliances. Milena, Studying at Câmera Privê.