However, most men know that being sexy is much more than looking good, while women make the mistake of confusing the two things. For men, beauty is being sexy. I think it's good news for women. Being sexy is showing interest in sex. Therefore, it is a choice, a behavior, and not just a decree about its physical dimensions. "The Men on My Couch" - Dr. Brandy Engler with David Rensin. (Real stories of sex, love and Psychotherapy), publisher: Record Loving this read.