Your fear of surrendering and experimenting with a passive role in the relationship may be directly linked to interpreting this sexual role as one of weakness, fragility, and vulnerability, associating the woman's role with the passive figure. And this only reveals two things: insecurity and sexism. Having the passive role as synonymous with having "less power" in bed only impoverishes your sex life. You can be very active while being passive and very passive while playing an active role! These things aren't linked to being more of a man or a woman as we've learned, nor to exercising more or less power. You can only be active if there is a passive partner, and vice versa. We need to dehierarchize sex. Nobody is above or below in sexual positions. Everything is an exchange that depends on another. The dominant partner can only dominate if the submissive partner allows themselves to be dominated. The active partner can only be active if there is a passive partner. Do you understand? Active and passive are perhaps much more about the energy exerted in the exchange than about penetration or not. Especially since there are people who don't even penetrate to have sex. Good afternoon, loves! I'll be going live soon. If anyone wants to talk to me, send me a message!