Look at yourself, only inside. Remember every person who passed through your life and hurt you, hurt you, betrayed you, deceived you, deceived you, frustrated you, stole you, abused you, abandoned you, made you look like an idiot, etc. Remember them one by one, from when you were very little, until now. Remember what she did to you, remember the pain, the tears, the despair you felt, remember to ask yourself why you went through this. You didn't deserve it. Remember the injustice, the sleepless nights, the mental confusion it left you; of the appetite that went away, of your hair that fell out, of the weight you lost, of that stomachache that anger brings. Remember the disorders that came next: anxiety, depression, compulsion to eat, drink, gamble, shop, drugs, etc. Are you feeling it? It's terrible, I know. You didn't have any of this before, did you? Do you remember who you were before all this? This feeling is called hurt, resentment... You may not even be aware that it has turned into hurt. Maybe this is only clear now. Every time you remember what was done to you, you stick your finger in the wound and that's why it will never heal. It hurts today like it hurt before. Your mind clings to the past and dwells on it; you can't be 100% in the present; in the now. You are wasting useful time in your life with this. He learned to live feeling this way and thinks that life is just like that. But it is not. There is only one solution for this to end once and for all: Forgive! Now a reality check, okay? Let me ask you a little question lol: Do you know the cow? The people who harmed you are like cows; shitting, walking and wagging his tail, not even there for you lol. How do I know this? Because I went through this process of forgiving 9 times this year and none of these people showed that they were suffering; I was the only one! And with you it will be exactly the same. EQUAL. If that weren't true, they would have already come to you and asked for your forgiveness spontaneously before. Whoever hits forgets, whoever gets hit doesn't. She has no idea how much you suffer for something that happened years ago, believe me... Whoever hurt you, (intentionally or not) will NEVER come and ask for your forgiveness or will not admit that they made a mistake. Don't wait for this to happen... Accept it. Whoever hurt you, maybe they don't deserve it, maybe they don't even want your forgiveness, maybe they don't even accept it. Understand, forgiveness is something you need to do for yourself, not for someone else. He lifts a burden from YOUR shoulders that YOU carry. All of this only harms you, you are drinking poison waiting for the other person to die. You are stabbing yourself, hoping to hurt the other, you are holding a burning ember wanting to affect the other but only you suffer. And forgive yourself? Sometimes it's more difficult to forgive ourselves for the stupid choices we made, for having ignored our intuition, the signs, for having put ourselves in a certain situation, for not getting out of it soon. Forgive yourself, you made mistakes with yourself, just as you made mistakes with others, no one is perfect; do not blame yourself. Forgiveness is a rational decision that needs to be made with the mind and not the heart. Use your reason, not your emotion, be cool about it. You will NEVER wake up wanting to forgive that Pxtx's daughter; quite the contrary, the place of victim is much more pleasant; poor thing of you lol. Forgiving is leaving your comfort zone, and believe me, it's magical, it's liberating; in a few days (sometimes minutes, sometimes hours) you will see that it no longer affects you, and it is as if the person returns to being a blank sheet of paper; a stranger you don't even know who he is; you look and it doesn't tell you anything else. Of course, you don't have Alzheimer's, you won't forget it at first but eventually that will happen too. Forgetting is more sublime than forgiveness and it comes now. That won't occupy your thoughts anymore, believe me; the memory becomes insignificant, and in this context that is WONDERFUL! Peace comes next. Forgiveness will unlock your life on deep levels; you will flourish and live life in such a light and magical way; you will feel that feeling of miracle again all the time. You will see yourself differently, you will dream again and have a hunger for life so great that you won't even recognize yourself. And it is ''by forgetting the things that are behind and moving forward to those that are before me'', that you will stop existing and start living... Life is beautiful, it is perfect and you will only see it this way when you let go of what you insist on keeping with you. It is precisely this type of attitude that will make you stronger. Let's be honest, we golden rosemary people have also hurt people; ask for forgiveness too; the person carries the pain you caused in them and only they feel it... We all make mistakes, everyone! Be superior, be humble, evolve, transcend, be above average. Most are not capable of giving forgiveness to someone who has wronged them. You're not everyone lol. Be the minority, be rare.